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in order to get them to like me. All my friends thought that too.
The hell of it was, looking back, none of us had much luck with chicks.
Man, if I just keep working hard and being a nice guy who knows just the
right kinds of flowers to buy, I thought, women will like me. After all, whenever
you ask a woman for advice, that s what they tell you to do.
Later, I discovered that women give terrible advice! They provide you
with the roadmap for becoming relationship material only. Take their advice and
you ll be an easily controlled beta male who has to wait months before sex, as
opposed to an exciting alpha male who women have sex with right away.
As a college sophomore, I had a huge crush on a female roommate of
mine. I did the all the right things I thought I should do to get her to like me. I d
leave the toilet seat down. I d buy her CDs. I d fix things for her in our
apartment. I even cleaned up after her when she d trash the place.
I was such a sweet guy, she told me. But we never had sex. She never
felt any attraction for me whatsoever. I was just& too& nice. And nice means
beta.
Then during my junior year I made friends with a guy who seemed like the
opposite of what I thought a guy should be like. He didn t spend money on girls,
didn t eagerly jump to tag along with girls who asked him to go shopping with
them, and didn t try to impress girls with his car or career ambitions.
Yet this man constantly had women admiring him, orbiting him, flirting
hard with him, and having sex with him.
What he did, I later realized, was convey alpha male qualities that made
women attracted to him on a primal level.
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Everything about him and how he conducted himself reflected his
wholehearted belief that he was a good catch. It was the power attitude from
which all of his success flowed.
Because of his belief that he was a good catch, he:
" Would only have sex with women who had earned that honor.
" Would only feel affectionate toward women who had earned that
privilege
" Would only be interested in what women said if they said something
interesting and didn t just blather on.
Once you ve completely adopted this mindset that you are the catch (not
her), you will have become more attractive.
It s a fundamental part of human psychology that we tend to assign a higher
value to things that aren t readily available.
That s basic supply and demand: whatever is in short supply is demanded
at a higher price than usual.
As I write this book, for example, there s a reported market shortage of
Splenda artificial sweetener. The company that makes it is trying to build a new
factory because its current factory can t keep up with demand.
So now, thanks to news stories trumpeting that fact, people who never
would have used Splenda in the first place are buying up months and years of
the stuff.
Remember when they brought back the original Coke after introducing
New Coke?
From rare baseball cards to stamps, there are examples of the scarcity
principle all over the place. Marketers take advantage of it all the time.
As an alpha male, you can take advantage of this and increase your value
through the following three secrets:
1) Being unavailable to a woman if the benefit you ll gain is
outweighed by what you d have to put up with. (If you take that
attitude, how much patience do you think you ll have for women
who put you in the relationship category and make you wait
months for sex? Not much!)
2) Not jumping to return phone calls so quickly. As an alpha
male, you re a busy man, and women need to earn your attention.
And when you do talk on the phone, often you ll get off the phone
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first, not because some relationship book told you that you have to,
but because you genuinely are a busy man
3) Not being available for dates if you have other things you re
doing with your life. (And by the way, in order to be attractive to
women, you should be doing things with your life other than
chasing skirts.)
Let me say this again, because it s important by not always being
available, you will raise your value.
When you adopt the mindset that you are a high value man who decides
for himself if it s worth his while to spend time with a woman, you will also have
certain rules for behaviors that you will tolerate from her. When she fails to meet
your expectations, you withdraw your attention.
As an alpha male, you live the life that you want, free from needing the
approval of others. (Most people unfortunately do not live the life that they want
for precisely that reason, i.e., that they re afraid of getting disapproval.)
Therefore, you move towards the things you want and away from the
things you don t. You re a man of high value and are worthy of being treated as
such by others.
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Creating Your Own Strong Reality
Your world is what you perceive it to be. On the internet, you can find a
vast range of beliefs, and all of those beliefs are backed by people s own
observations.
For example, many religious sites talk about God as if it s obvious he
exists, while atheists say that s nonsense. Read further and you find compelling
arguments for both views! How can that be, since both sides can't be right? It
happens because each is a different person s view of reality.
What if you break your leg? Is that bad? You re probably thinking, Damn
right, it s bad. But let s suppose you re a British soldier in 1914 and that broken
leg just prevented you from becoming cannon fodder on the Western Front.
Then you d thank your lucky stars for your leg cast and crutches!
So here s the thing: reality is what you perceive it to be. There is no
objective reality. Everything is open to interpretation. How about if it s a rainy
day? You ll have an entirely different perspective depending on whether you
want to go on a picnic of if you re a farmer suffering through a drought, Even a
flood isn t bad for everyone people who kayak whitewater love floods.
Thus, you have the power to view the world the way you want to. You can
have your own reality, your own frame on things.
A person with a weak reality gets drawn into other people s perceptions of
the world. A person with a strong reality is unaffected by other people s
perceptions, and instead draws others into his world.
Let s say you go to nightclubs and have trouble finding a place to park. A
beta male who lets external factors control him will be upset by this. But you can
frame it in a way that you don t have to be upset. Not being able to find a place
to park means that there will be lots of people in the clubs, which means lots
more women.
Ever get stuck in a traffic jam? That s okay, because it s a chance for you
to take a break, relax, meditate, and maybe listen to some soothing music. You
don t have to join the rest of the herd in becoming upset. You have the power to
have a good perception of events.
Now let s look at what kind of frame you have when it comes to yourself.
You want to have the frame that you are a prize that women will earn.
Easy Alpha Male Exercise Fixing your mindset about yourself with
women.
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You need to know that every woman would be lucky to have you. Ponder
the following questions. Come up with answers to them, and write down those
answers.
This exercise may be easy, but it's important, because if you ve not yet
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